Family Support Network of Central Carolina

Family Support Network of Central Carolina is a nonprofit organization whose mission is to ‘provide support, education, and caring connections to those who have a child with special needs or who experience a NICU stay’.  We do this through various programming, including parent education, mentoring, support groups, early intervention, and more. All of our services are free to local families. For more information about our organization, or to connect with us, please visit our website at www.fsncc.org.

How do you build your village?

 

By Eleanor Beeslaar

In our last blog, we talked about the challenges of parenting young children and the benefit of having a village of support to help you along this journey, but you may be wondering, “How exactly do I build a village?” In today’s blog, we will help you build your village by providing tips to help you find ways to connect with the resources and services available in our community.

A great place to start when looking for parenting information, resources, or services in our community, is to reach out to friends, family members, a pediatrician, or your child’s teacher or school counselor for recommendations. Teachers and school counselors are especially helpful when seeking resources, as schools are often central points in our community and an essential part of your village. They have access to lots of great information about community resources available to children, parents, and families!

Another way to find out more about the different organizations that provide services to help parents and families with young children is to search online. Many of the organizations in our community have websites with lots of information about the resources and services they provide, as well as methods for contacting them. They may also have social media accounts, such as facebook, instagram, and twitter, where they post about local events you can attend to receive information and resources.

One of the best ways to learn about and connect with organizations in your community, is to attend events like the Family Village Resource Fairs. Events like these are a great way to meet face-to-face with organizations and develop relationships with the people who can help you overcome parenting challenges you may be facing.

We encourage you to attend the Family Village Resources Fairs, which will take place on April 9th and 10th! For more information about locations and times, visit our facebook event https://www.facebook.com/events/309941119603767/. You can also learn about some of the organizations in our community, who will also be at the Family Village Resource Fairs, by tuning into our blog for the next week.

We hope these tips will help you get connected and build your village of support!

There is a Village: Series Introduction

 

By Eleanor Beeslaar

Parenting young children is hard work and can present new challenges that can feel overwhelming and difficult to navigate on your own. There is so much new information to learn, and it can feel like there isn’t enough time to grasp everything you feel like you need to know. It is normal to feel this way, especially as a new parent, and it is okay to ask for help when you’re not sure how to handle new, and often challenging situations with your child.

“It takes a village to raise a child.” This is a phrase that many of us have probably heard circling through the media or in parenting groups, and it carries a lot of truth to it. Having a group to support you in this new stage of life can make a world of a difference. Though most of us don’t live in villages these days, our friends, family members, and community make up a modern day village that can help support us through parenting challenges. In fact, Guilford County has it’s very own village of organizations that provide helpful information, resources, and services to parents of young children.

To help parents become more connected to the many wonderful resources throughout our community, HRI along with several other community organizations will be hosting our second annual Family Village Resource Fairs! For more information please visit the facebook event: https://www.facebook.com/events/309941119603767/. We will also be highlighting some of the organizations that will be present at the resource fairs in our blog series leading up to the events.

We hope to see you at the Greensboro Family Village on Tuesday, April 9th 6-8pm or the High Point Family Village on Wednesday, April 10th 6-8pm. Stay tuned throughout the next week to learn more about how you can build your own village with the plethora of resources and services available to parents of young children throughout our community!

Forgiving Yourself

Self-forgiveness is an essential part of emotional healing and leads to stronger, healthier relationships. Its normal to feel bad about and regret doing something that harms someone else; however, it isn’t healthy to continue to dwell on these actions. When we hold onto feelings of self-judgement and blame, we tap into the shame we may be feeling because of things in our past we are not proud of. Though shame isn’t always bad, when we constantly carry it with us, it can lower our self-esteem and keep us from experiencing joy and happiness.

Self-forgiveness allows us to let go of negative self-judgements, self-blame, and overwhelming shame. When we practice self-forgiveness, we create space within ourselves to grow and change, leading to healthier relationships and a more fulfilling life.

Forgiving ourselves can be challenging, especially when we have hurt the people we care for most, but there is hope! Here are some important ideas and steps to keep in mind when embarking on your own journey to self-forgiveness:

You are not alone. Everyone has harmed someone in some way or done something they are ashamed of; it is part of the human condition. We all make mistakes and deserve to give ourselves compassion and grace. Remember, when we falter or fail, we often learn the most important lessons and experience exponential growth.

Practice mindfulness. When we experience shame and self-blame, we often time travel into the past and relive the moments we regret, preventing us from focusing on the present. As you work towards self-forgiveness, we encourage you to practice mindfulness and work on connecting to the present. By staying in the present, you can focus on self-understanding, self-compassion, and and work towards becoming your best self.

Apologize & make amends. An apology can be a powerful tool of healing for both the person who is apologizing and for the person they hurt. When we take responsibility for our actions and express sincere remorse for hurting someone, it communicates that we value them and our relationship together. Not only do apologies help those who have been harmed feel respected and cared for, but they also foster a sense of self-respect and self-compassion for those who are giving the apology.

As we wrap-up our series on forgiveness, we encourage you to keep the information we have shared over the past week in mind as you continue to work on strengthening your relationships!

 

When It’s Hard to Forgive

Forgiving someone after they have hurt you can be challenging, especially if it is someone you are really close to. However, when we find it difficult to forgive someone, it is helpful to remember that forgiveness is important for our own healing. Forgiveness does not mean that you are forgetting what happened, minimizing your pain and suffering, or excusing someone’s behavior. Forgiveness frees us from anger and resentment and helps us find peace and happiness within ourselves.

Though forgiveness is an important part of healing and self-growth, know that it is okay to give yourself time to work through your emotions and process what happened. Forgiveness happens at your own pace. You may need more time to fully feel and express your anger and pain before you are ready to start working toward forgiveness.

How Do I Ask for Forgiveness?

Forgiveness is a complex and challenging process with many wonderful rewards and opportunities for growth. In today’s blog, we will be breaking down the forgiveness process into simpler, more concrete steps, with the goal of increasing your understanding and ability to forgive yourself and others more readily and easily.

Acceptance and self-awareness. The first part of the forgiveness process is being aware of when you need to ask for forgiveness and accepting that you have done and/or said something to hurt another person. When you understand the impact your actions and/or words had on the other person, you can take responsibility for what you have done and take the steps necessary to work toward repairing the relationship.

Apologize & ask for forgiveness. After you are aware of when you need to ask for forgiveness and are ready to take responsibility for your actions, the next step is to apologize to the person you hurt. Before you apologize, it is a good idea to reflect and think about what you want to say. If you are having a hard time thinking of how to express what you want to communicate, it might be helpful to write down your apology beforehand. When you apologize, it is important to be honest, sincere, and empathetic. Be sure to clearly express what you are sorry for, take responsibility for your actions, don’t make excuses, and communicate that you understand and are remorseful for the harm your actions have caused. Another important part of apologizing is to express sincere intentions to do your best to avoid making the same mistake in the future. Once you have apologized, ask for forgiveness.

Don’t get defensive. After you apologize and ask for forgiveness, let them respond to you without getting defensive. They may need to express the impact your actions had on them. If this is the case, give them the space to do so, but know that, if they begin to attack you, you have the right to ask them to stop and walk away.

Be willing to give them time and space. After you apologize to someone, they made not be ready to forgive you right away. They may need time and space to process their feelings before they are ready to move forward.

Show your commitment to rebuilding the relationship. After you apologize and ask for forgiveness, be proactive about avoiding the same mistakes you made before. Show that you can be trusted through your actions, but remember that you don’t deserve to have your past mistakes held over you.