Healthy Break-ups: Listen actively

When a relationship ends, both people are likely experiencing a wide range of emotions, and it’s important to create space for both people to feel and express these emotions. Be sure to listen actively to one another. This means allowing each other to process your emotions and truly listening without thinking of your response when the other person is speaking. Know that break-ups are hard, and it’s normal to feel hurt, sad, and upset. If you or the other person notices that you are feeling too dysregulated to communicate in a healthy way, try taking some space to calm down before revisiting the conversation. While it can be really challenging to listen to the pain each person is experiencing as the relationship ends, it can also be an incredibly healing and empathetic experience.

Healthy Break-Ups: Be honest about your feelings

When we talk about relationships, we usually focus on ways to build up and strengthen our connections with others, but what about when that relationship ends? We don’t tend to spend as much time talking about what to do in the face of a breakup. However, making sure we have healthy breakups is just as important as devoting our energy to building healthy relationships! 

When a relationship ends, both people often feel a rollercoaster of emotions from pain and sadness, to confusion or relief. Though breakups are challenging and painful, they are also an inevitable part of the human experience. Most of us have probably been broken up with or been the one to end a relationship. It’s hard and emotional, but it can also be healthy! 

This week, we’ll be sharing tips to help you have a healthy breakup whenever possible!

Today’s tip is to be honest and clear with your partner about why you’re ending the relationship. When you’re open and honest about your feelings, you can help them gain closure and clarity instead of leaving them wondering with “what ifs.” If it feels safe, it’s also important to communicate your feelings if you are on the other side of the break up. It’s okay to feel hurt and to communicate that in a respectful way. Both people deserve to feel heard and respected throughout the breakup.

Talk to yourself…

The way we talk to ourselves shapes the way that we view ourselves.  Next time you find yourself saying something unkind to yourself, reframe that thought and give yourself a compliment instead, such as, “You’re doing a great job,” or “You’re doing the best you can with what you have, and that’s okay.”  Treat yourself how you would treat a good friend or family member, for you deserve it!

Summer Fun COVID-19: Give yourself grace.

As you plan your summer activities, remember to give yourself grace if things don’t go quite as planned. We are in uncharted waters, and it’s okay if plans fall flat or things don’t work out as expected. We’re all just trying to do our best and figure this out as we go. Be kind to yourself and your loved ones!

Summer Fun COVID-19: Get outside!

A great way to enjoy some family fun this summer is to get outside as much as possible! Not only does nature provide an opportunity to get some fresh air and a change of scenery, but it can also boost our physical, emotional, and mental health!

There are many outdoor activities and are both fun and safe. Try planting a vegetable, herb, or flower garden and work together to keep it healthy and growing throughout the summer. Going on walks, runs, and hikes are also a great way to have fun, get some exercise, bond as a family. Be sure to follow social distancing guidelines and take safety precautions. Finally, practice sports, dance, or do some yoga outside, whether in your backyard or at an open park!

 

Summer Fun COVID-19: Connect Socially!

Make sure to plan time for both you and your kids to connect with others socially this summer! Try planning virtual hangouts and playdates for your kids to connect with their friends and family members who don’t live with you. This can help them to continue to develop socially and emotionally, while also feeling connected to their peers. It’s also just as important for you to make time to connect with your friends! Try planning a virtual hangout, whether it’s a book club, happy hour, or just time to talk and catch up.

Summer Fun COVID-19: Plan a staycation!

If your family vacation plans have been cancelled or postponed due to the coronavirus, try planning a staycation. Although this isn’t the same as going to the beach or traveling to a favorite family spot, it can still be a great way to relax, unwind, and enjoy a vacation. Work together as a family to come up with some ideas for what your staycation will look like. Check out the ideas below to get you started!

Plan a backyard camping trip.

Grab some sleeping bags, set up a tent, and get supplies for s’mores. Backyard camping can be a fun way to get out of the house, enjoy some fresh air, and use your imagination to have fun as a family!

Set up a spa-cation.

Create an at-home spa experience for some self-care, relaxation, and pampering. Create different stations for activities like face masks, meditation/yoga, or hair styling. Get creative and find what works best for you!

Transform your backyard into a water park.

This doesn’t have to be anything fancy or expensive. It can be as simple as hooking a hose up to a sprinkler system, making water balloons, and using a kiddie pool to have fun and cool off during the summer months. 

Be sure to plan activities for both you and your kids.

You’ve probably been focusing on ways to keep your kids entertained during this time of social distancing and self-isolation, but it’s just as important to set aside time for yourself. Plan staycation time for you to unwind and do something you enjoy, as well as making time to connect with your partner, if you’re in a relationship. This might look like quiet time for reading or other hobbies that you enjoy!

Summer Fun COVID-19: Activities you can do at home

With summer quickly approaching, many families may be thinking ahead to what their summers will look like in the age of coronavirus. Many regular summer activities and vacations may be cancelled or postponed; however, that doesn’t mean that you can’t have a summer full of fun! There are many ways to adapt summer plans and activities to continue to have fun this summer, while also staying safe and healthy. Starting today and continuing throughout this week, we’ll be sharing tips to help you have a summer full of fun while building healthy family relationships during the coronavirus pandemic. 

Tip 1: Plan fun activities you can try at home with the whole family.

There are many great activities to try at home during the COVID-19 pandemic. Not only are these activities fun, but they can also promote learning and create time for family bonding!

Experiment in the kitchen. A great way to teach your kids practical life skills, while also having fun and bonding, is to experiment in the kitchen! Help them find a recipe they want to try and work together to make it. Try introducing new recipes each week!

Take advantage of virtual activities. With coronavirus limiting our ability to physically go places, the virtual world has become more and more relevant. There are lots of ways to explore and connect to the world around us using the internet and technology! Try using zoom, skype, facetime, or other platforms to connect to friends and family virtually or to hold a virtual book club. We also encourage you to check out some of the following virtual activities:

Create arts and crafts. A great way to promote creativity and learning, while having fun as a family is to engage in arts and crafts. There are lots of great kid-friendly art project ideas available on pinterest and youtube! Remember, these projects don’t have to be perfect and may not always go as planned. Try and keep an open mind and embrace the learning process, as you and your kids figure this out together. 

 

Family activity nights. Set aside one night a week for a family activity night, such as a movie, puzzle, or game night. Not only can this be lots of fun, but it also creates stability and consistency, while promoting family bonding. Rotate who gets to pick the activity each week!

These are just some of the many things that you and your family can do for fun this summer! We encourage you to get creative and keep thinking of new and fun ideas!