Take a step back to reflect on your values and how you want to treat others. Most of us strive to treat others with kindness and respect and hope we receive the same treatment in return. However, when someone is being hurtful to you and treating you in a way that leaves you feeling undervalued, betrayed, or upset, it can be difficult to be kind to them. In fact, it may be tempting to be hurtful hurt them in return, but do your best to resist this temptation. If you do end up saying or doing something hurtful, acknowledge what you have done and apologize as soon as possible.
It can be really difficult to admit your own wrongdoings and show kindness to someone when they are being hurtful towards you. In fact, you may be wondering why you should be kind to someone who is being mean. Think of it this way; showing kindness to someone isn’t just for them – it’s for you too. Being kind to the other person during relationship challenges and conflicts is something to be proud of. When you stick to your values and own up to your mistakes, you can know that you did your part to try and repair the relationship.
To remind yourself of your values of kindness and respect, try the following affirmation: “No matter what the other person does to me, I choose to act with kindness and integrity.”
The information in today’s blog was adapted from one of our earlier series, “In the Midst of Relationship Chaos.” To see the original post, check out the following link: https://www.guilfordhri.org/in-the-midst-of-relationship-chaos-step-3-commit-to-kindness-and-your-own-integrity/.