By Eleanor Beeslaar

Rebuilding your life after leaving an abusive relationship can be scary and challenging, but it can also be an exciting opportunity to rediscover your passions and develop a new path for your future. Take this time to get to know yourself and build a life you are proud of. You deserve to be happy and lead a joy-filled life!

Engaging in self-reflection can help you identify goals and develop a vision for your future. Think about what is important to you and where you would like to see yourself in the next year, 5 years, 10 years, etc. Some questions you can ask yourself to spark this process are:

  • What are your passions and dreams? 
  • Where would you like to live? 
  • Do you have a vision for your education or career? 
  • What are your goals for personal growth and development? 
  • How do you see yourself now and how would you like to see yourself moving forward? 
  • What do you need to feel safe?
  • What do you want your support system to look like?
  • Who in your life do you value?
  • What impact do you want to make on the world around you?
  • What gives you a sense of purpose and fulfillment in life?

Once you have identified your dreams and goals for your future, start establishing a plan to work toward this vision. This may look like identifying small steps you can take to accomplish your larger goals and dreams. It may also involve adjusting some of your goals to be more realistic and feasible for your current life context, while keeping in mind that over time, this may change as you continue to build yourself up. 

Keep in mind that your goals and vision may change over time, and that is okay. If you hit bumps in the road, give yourself grace and remember that progress and growth take time. You are strong and capable of rebuilding your life!